Nice Guys Come Last...

It's true, sadly...

I've just come out of what was a fantastic relationship, just to have it turn really messy at the end. Take it from me; three-way relationships are fun, but they take a HELL of a lot of work.

Communication is by far the most important thing. If you're not emotionally mature enough to be able to hear what other people have to say about yourself and not immediately react severely, then you're on the right path.

One thing I've noticed about humans is that they say things to each other and they're completely misunderstood by their peers. Whether this be choice of words, body language that's been incorporated or even just the tone of your voice, it can make such a drastic change. To be able to not accept things for face value is something that I've been working on for several years now, and it has helped me to understand other people, see how they live their lives and how their universe works.

If someone says something hurtful to you, acknowledge the emotional response that it triggered, then step back, look at what was said from their point of view, try to understand it from their perspective. Then discuss with them what they meant, develop on the subject, and there you go, there's one massive emotional outburst avoided and the talking that had taken place should have bought you closer together.